One of the things I've now realised is W wants my attention/availability 100%. she wants me to be around her even when she doesn't need me, or more to the point she doesn't want me to be around others (female relatives)so she wants me to be around her. She was hurt when I moved out cos in her words "I deserted her" and even when I came back and she was angry, she just wanted me to be around so she could be angry at me.
Despite what I've been posting there are lots of big positives, W now puts the emphasis on the two of us spending time together (quality time)and doing things that are building for the future like working on the house, holidays, new car stuff like that. These all cost money so that will be the next potential sticking point for us. Today was spent shopping, walking through the mall holding hands at one point W stopped and gazed into my eyes and said all I want this year is for the two of us to fix up the house together and kissed me on the lips.
See all of this is good stuff and if I was on the outside looking at the two of us I'd say they look to be a nice happy couple. But because the lack of bedroom intermacy I get frustrated and then little irritations start then we go down the whole bad loop. I must say cos I can see the bigger picture I have prevented a lot of potential flash points.
ok I'll read the list agian and get to work on the things I can control but I have to say you are 100% spot on with W lacking fun with me being one of our problems of the past.(lack of money was the route cause).
Lan
PS W bought me another shirt in the mall (whipped ot what !!!) PPS The bog truck analogy didn't work for me.
