Still in love with my waw....after divorce

[Bill_S]

Well I had hoped things would be different. The marriage is over but things are strange. Shes talking to me more. Even telling me about the boyfriend. She opened up big time about her "red flags" with the guy, was mad (and a little drunk) last night and said hes a liar. Then telling me how their plans usually work and how hes acting cold etc.

Heres my problem. I still love her. I want to move on and Im trying. Has anyone heard of a waw who got a divorce acting like this? I would like to keep the door open (a little). Or am I being an idiot?

Frankly, I dont have a clue what to do. She asks for my help with her HUGE cell bill and I said no. Shes had an issue with her first ex and a stalker and she wanted ME to "protect" her. Ive told her I cant help her with her bills (Pastor said she needs to "hit rock bottom"--thats klling me)and when I said I will always make sure shes safe she got a sad look and said "you have no idea how much I appreciate that..."

Im about as lost as a person can be. I would like to continue building a relationship whatever happens. I dont want to shut the door completely but I dont want to open up to more pain.