I am firm believer of not wasting your energy on the OP. It is rarely the case where the OP was/is the reason for the "breakdown". Reading your posts, it seems that you caught him by surprise doing the unexpected. Becoming strong and in control. That has really made it difficult for him to find reasons to be away from you. So IT WORKS and no matter how you feel about your M at any given day keep in mind that this addie has to continue becoming stronger (=more attractive).
Throw in some women's tricks (it may sound stupid but I swear it works), clothes styling, hair etc. Complete your new picture. I would not set any boundaries unless I were sure he was leaning more than 70% to me. How can you tell? Only you can figure that out. Patience...
