Not to fuel the flames or anything, but I SOOOOOO relate.
Mitch is making GOBS of money now, but he wants me and my parents to pitch in for the kids camp this summer (which his father was supposed to pay for but backed out of half of it--The M's are not men of their word obviously).
It makes me sick. And meanwhile, he is planning trips to Germany with his woman and will be staying in luxury near a lake and will have all the extra cash to do with what he wants while all I have goes to pay for track uniforms and swimsuits for the kids and the new car and my kids and family.
The house needs to a new roof. The driveway needs to be paved. The paint in the bathroom is peeling. Things are falling apart. I can't do it myself. He would never help me. he "says" we're still a family, but as you say, talk is cheap.
I get it woman, I really do.
But...let me help you re-direct your focus.
He wants to be your friend and even though he lies about how much he has, he still does pay for stuff for you and the kids and he doesn't HAVE to, but he does and that's way more than what I get. And he could decide to hate you and not be your friend and he hasn't. Mitch is not my friend and doesn't want to be. We barely communicate.
And, Javier is there in the same town and a part of the kids' lives and I can't tell you how much that means. Believe me, my children are suffering terribly and feel that Mitch does not love them any more or "as much" because he is moving. I think they are right...he doesn't love them as much any more. I would never say such a thing to them, but the kids know the truth and it sucks.
My favorite line from these boards...what we focus on expands. You are so blessed and have so much and are so loved.
