I know what you mean on the bank account thing, Lissie.
If you will allow me to vent too, as I am not allowed to have my own thread.(and that's a whole other vent)
Anyhow, I just go online to pay my bills and that is it. I don't look elsewhere because it only makes me mad and I am just not wanting to get mad over his spending. H whines too about his debt. Yes, I see the debt, so why not stop spending??? And that is debt I only see if I choose to look. He has other credit cards that I can't see so I can only imagine.
We have a F'd up thing going on, too! And like you Lissie, I am mad at myself more than anything. Him not so mad at because this is his M.O. Always has been.
