She may still be lacking something. - Possibly, but I don't know what.
She may be thinking about the OM. - Maybe but I have no way of checking this.
She may really be thinking of you. - Yes, she does think of me but to what extent I'm not sure.
She may be looking for a way to tell you to step it up a little.-I doubt it, although her defense mechanisms are on a lessened state of alert.
She may really enjoy being close like this. - She does now, she mentioned that I have a magic touch when I gave her a massage.
This was the list we started with.
I have highlighted the ones you can't do anything about.
I am sure there are more.
So we are left with Lacking, Thinking, Defense Down, Massage.
Again a simple list.
How do you find out what she is Lacking?
You could ask. You could hint around. You could "spin" that in your mind. From my chair I would say she is lacking "fun" time with Lan. She has told you as much.
What do you do about Thinking?
The above applies here to. You could get together with her new friends and your new friends and fire off a conversation about "What people want out of life". You would have to be slick about it but you are trying to get to know these people. If its done in a round table type discussion, who knows you may learn something.
What do you do about Defenses Down?
Well, You doubted yourself there for a sec. So what started as a negative thing turned out to be positive. I would say that something you are doing is working. I just can't tell you what.
What do you do about massage?
Well the obvious answer is more of it. Maybe even throw in some "accessories". Why not while you are giving her the magic touch bring up Lacking and Thinking. Maybe take Sandi2's advice and joke with her. Something like "I sure wish I had someone giving me the Magic Touch" worst case scenario you end up with a massage.
Now I come from Outer Space and don't communicate well so I hope you got it.
You got to get unstuck from where you have been.
I just came up with another silly analogy.
You are driving your mud bog truck. It got stuck in the mud. You are spinning your wheels trying to get out. Finally, You get somebody to pull you out. Your wife was taking pictures the whole time but you did not know. She got some of you with a big smile on your face and some with you frustrated and stuck. She get them developed and brings them home. You two sit down on the couch and talk about all the fun and the frustration. Funny thing is.. looking at the pictures the frustration does not feel like it did when you were stuck. The fun brings back all the feelings you had when you weren't stuck.
I will refine that at some point. I think that was a 1st draft. If anybody will get it you will. LOL.
Do Work.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
