Hi addie, I do not have any insight on a relationship with another person as neither my W or I have not engaged in that. I can tell you that I was thinking about this today as I have read many posts on this board about a spouse with another woman or man. What I can tell you from the outside looking in is that what I see is that if these spouses keep coming back to the person left behind then that tells me that they want to see the M work out. What they are trying to do is figure out if that is truly the person they want to be with. They could be looking for clues, they could be looking for changes.
I really can't see a WAS coming back to there left behind spouse if there are not feelings there or if they are not trying to find that happy they are looking for.
Again, I may be way off on this, as I have not been through this, this is coming from an outsider looking in. If the spouse was dead set on other relationship and leaving, they would not be coming arouns such as your H is.
