Why do these things happen X - A new beginning

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I see that I have not posted since 12/1/07 . I had not given up but had to take a break from worrying about my wife and spending most of my free time here, not that didn't help in a lot of ways. Also I was a no-show in Sonoma, sorry NikB & Husband. I have checked up on peeps in here almost weekly but just did not feel that I had anything to contribute, so I stayed silent.

So here is a long over due update, and I know I am skipping lots of things, but that's life. The better part of December sucked, and got worse the day after christmas, my mom passed away. My wife and I dropped our youngest off at her parents and headed to my parents place alone, he joined up the day after new years for the funeral. In ways that to this day I still do not understand but this period was a turning point for my wife. The moment we arrived my wife, not just trying, but truly started working on us, not sure if it was the emotions or what, but she is still going strong. She knew the whole time that my mom was ill that her only wish in life was that the two of worked it out, might of been late, but I can guarantee she is up above and smiling now :). I have been slow an cautious just waiting for the other shoe to drop and the roller coaster to start up again, but now 6 months back together in the same household, I finally feel safe that we are back together for the long haul. It is amazing that even when you get back what you want, you still fight the emotions and actions that can screw it back up.

I remember way back that a lot of people never find the outcome of people here because whether they stay apart or reconcile they have usually stopped posting, so one reason I am posting today is to say if you have a thread of hope, there is a chance. It will take more time, effort and emotion than you think you have the patients for, but what is important is that you know what you want. Those things you want the most are always the hardest to achieve.

Not sure what advice I can offer to all those here but to say that stay true to your convictions and give that WAS the time they need to come to terms with themselves and your families, till they do that you are fighting an uphill battle. It is the same stuff you keep hearing GAL, but don't due anything you would regret should you and your WAS ever do come back together.