As the single Parent I know how tough that i, but I see it as being very lucky to have my family with me. D stays with W 3/4 nights but they are realy sleepovers and her stuff , pets and home is very much here.
Purr,
I think detachment comes with time and the realisation that our M had been in deep trouble for some time . It is interesting that when OM was in the picture , W realy looked for faults in me and displayed anger and indifference , I guess in an effort to convince herself what she was doing was justified. Now there is no OM her attitude is somewhat softer but over the last few weeks a bit more distant . I would guess that contact with me is difficult and confusing at times. She is quite determined to make seperation work and is single minded about this. I just needed to accept that . I do not know what the future holds , I doubt she does.
Back to the present.
Not much to say had virtuly no contact other that W phoneing me to talk about D until she dropped D home yesterday. Then she stayed for dinner and a movie. She was tired and subdued so there was not a lot of interaction . Sometimes I get this feeling that she is waiting for me to do something.
In any case if she ever wants to come back she will need work for it and I dont see that happening for a while if ever.
I dont like it , but I am happy , enjoy my days and what I do have , I think thats the biggest thing is to enjoy what you do have.
