Thanks Sandi, my little one is only 5 and he is OK. The only thing I worry about with him is that he used to be so attached to my wife and now he barely speaks of her at all. He does not say he missed mommy or ask when she is coming over anymore. When she is here she has little interaction with them and I fear he is detaching in his own little way. My oldest is the one I would like to have someone else talk to. He tries to act strong with me but I know he feels the rejection. He was off of school this entire week and he text her the other day and she did not respond to him. The strangest thing is that she is friendly and nice to me but is still kinda cold with them. Maybe it is her guilt, I don't know. I did call my oldest son's school and asked that a counselor speak with him. I met with his teachers and let them know what is going on as well. I am trying to do the best in this sit. I am really starting to think that it would be better if she just had no contact with them until she can give them the love and affection they deserve when she is here but I wont dare suggest that to her. She would get angry and think I was trying to come between her and her kids. I just don't want them to be hurt.
I also want to make it known that although I am not happy in my sit, I am thankful for what I have because I know it could be so much worse for me.
Thanks again for the time and words of wisdom and encouragement.
