Strong like Marshmallow

[minkerman]

And of course you know that you can't TELL him that you're doing this!

Why not?

Because the only reason you'll be telling him is so you can say "see how I've changed?" And the only reason he'll see for you doing that, is because you are trying to "get him back".

So, start doing this stuff, then one day he'll call, and you'll get a chance to work your plan.

Here is what literally just happened to me, not 30 minutes ago:
2 voice mails from W.

First one "MM, I really need your help, my car got towed and I am in class all day...please call me".

Next message 20 min later "I wish I could get you on the phone...I'm so sorry to do this to you on your Saturday. I really need you to help me out, honey...please call".

So 1.5 hours later I called her, she told me what she needed, and at the end she asked "oh by the way, what were you doing at 9am on a Saturday?"

"I was at yoga", I said. "Oh.......well that's great!" she said.

See how you can do something similar, without saying look at me and all my changes?