Just got back from taking the kids out for lunch. We stopped at their mom's to pickup some items. I had thekids phone before we dropped by as I don't like to invade her privacy without checking first. She didn't answer the phone and therefore was probably out grocery shopping. So when kids and I arrived she had apparently just returned home. When we went into the house there was OP in the kitchen putting away groceries. Surprise! OP greeted me and I politely returned the greeting. The surprising thing is I had no emotional reaction to finding this person there at all, none. The kids and I then went out for our lunch, had a nice time and now we're back at my apartment. I always wondered how I would respond if I ever found OP in what was my home, now I know. W must have been relieved, I know the last time we dropped by she hid OP. I guess the time in the summer where I threatened to rip OP's heart out and stuff it down her f'ing throat may have created some anxiety, who knows But today, I just don't care! Works for me.