Yes it is kind of scary. History repeating itself! Wow! I've heard that happens quite often, but I'm sure it would take a professional to explain why.
I've said this before to somebody else, but I wish couples would try for a longer separation before getting D. Now-a-days they just jump right into a D so quickly. Sometimes a S can help a lot. You get away from that person until they can work out whatever it is going on with them and they find themselves again. The only problem is that often times the LBS is ready to move ahead in their lives without them. Again, it is the individual's decision.
You have a right to be angry. She has caused a lot of hurt and who knows how much damage to the boys. I am so glad you are there for them. They may need somebody they can talk to that isn't related to them......a Pastor, counselor, or somebody. Kids sometimes will talk about their true feelings to others before they will to the ones they love. They probably don't want to say anything to hurt or upset you more, so they may not be saying anything and keeping it all inside. That's not good for them. You might want to think about somebody you trust to guide them through some of this bad stuff they are experiencing.
God bless. I sure hope things get better soon.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
