The Longest Journey

[Jen_Jam]

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But then I also told H that for me, it was important for us to be partners and for him to be honest about his opinions and feelings about things we had to decide as a couple instead of him always deferring to me, then being angry because I didn't read his mind. I told him we didn't have to agree, but there was no way to have a partnership if the full truth isn't out there, that we couldn't even begin to make good decisions together and find a compromise or what fit us best if both people weren't being honest.
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SD - these are your words from 16th Sept 2006. Do you think the tables may have been turned now?

It just seems to me that the letter business will not die down, and you HAVE given it a lot of time. H may not be "letting go" of LW cos in his head he might look on it as a temporary lapse that is over now. It may have been big in his head but he didn't act on his feelings in reality. Also, things between you both are good now, to his view he may be thinking that he shouldn't bring up the past. It's a lot to admit you've been a bit of a tw^t.

So to him it may not be a big deal, but to you it IS. Your message to H needs to be CRYSTAL CLEAR and extremely specific. I know it feels like demanding, and as former LBS's we feel we CANNOT demand anything at any time. This is not the case. I catch myself at times doing things because I think H will like it, not stating my opinion on things, agreeing with him because I think that is what he wants. In short, I may have become my H. I can't do that, it leads to trouble.

What you decide to do will of course be your own decision, be that confront H or find a way round it. I will support what you decide, and help you out as much as i can. Your humour got me through SO MUCH. I was just reading back on old posts ... we laughed a lot in the DB phase. Didn't seem to laugh so much in Piecing