Sandi, She is not married and has never been married. She is very single, and she has told me in the past that she was jealous of the life that I have. I don't have anything to worry about on the EA I know that she would not let that happen. As for telling H to stay out of it I have to a point maybe I just need to come out and say it straight up. But H thinks that she would be good for me again. You see I don't have a lot of friends that I can turn to and b!tch about things, and she was always the one that I did that with, and she with me. I have my SIL but she would just run to my MIL and tell her everything that I just said, then there is another woman that I met and we have just hit it off from the start, she I can call up at b!tch to about the stupid things that H does or complain about work, etc. Now before I get jumped on I do complain to H about things too. So I am not completely with out friends but the ones that I can really trust and confide are the ones that I don't have anymore.
Now I think H is starting to understand the way that I think about money. He has always been the one to say we can't have money in the bank because we have alot of debt. I am the one that says we need to have money in the bank because we have a lot of debt. My thinking is if we are paying all of our money out every month and have nothing saved back and lets say the washing machine goes, we will have to finance that and the debt gets worst. Now if we had the money to pay for the washing machine we are fine and continue to pay things off on the schedule that I have planned out. This is another thing we need to have the councelor help us get through together.
