Thanks for dropping by Bug Lady! One of the ways I have tried to keep myself sane is through humour, sometimes it's a little out there but hey...This is such a difficult struggle for all of us and even those of us who have given up still need to heal and find ways to make our lives happy and whole again. I guess that's why I stay on the board, maybe my struggles, and hopefully successes, will help someone else out there too. As far as fish's thread, I in no way want to come across as making fun of him, I know the pain he feels and to some degree have travelled the road he is following right now. Someone once said that we learn from our experiences but it's better to learn from others experiences. I can't say I would respond any better than fish is if I was in his situation right now. It's damn powerful to have someone validate you and see you as worthy when you've been demeaned and demolished by the person you've loved and cherished, in my case for 17 years. I just know that the emotional struggle I went through, and sometimes still do, in regards to creating an emotional bond with someone else at the wrong time (and it didn't even become an A, but was heading there until she kicked my ass to the curb ), is not something I would wish to repeat, and I sure wish fish wouldn't do it to himself but we all have to learn in our own ways. So thanks for dropping by and to answer your question about being loveable, one of my struggles is to recognize that I am a worthy and loveable person. Rationally I can see all my good points and friends can tell me over and over but emotionally it's much harder to really believe, if that makes sense. When the person you've trusted and who you believed knew you better than anyone else in the world seemed to have concluded that you are unworthy, it becomes a real struggle. I also know that it is a very common stuggle for people in my position after a breakup. So, all the best to you in your DBing and in making a great life for yourself.
