God give me the patience and the strength...2

[ddstartingover]

That's right----you can't stop it. You can not change him. All you can do is work on YOU and be there for your children. You have to learn to believe that you will be ok without him (I'm still working on this too, but I know it's true). You have to stop being in fear about doing the wrong thing, or that your marriage will end and break up your family (still working on this too).

Jack Three Beans posted "You cannot be afraid of losing them. If you live in fear, you have no control of yourself, fear is the leash you put on yourself and give over to someone else." Do not let your H hold the leash.

I like most people here would give anything to have H love me again. BUT, I can't make that happen. I can only apply the DB techniques, work on me and maybe (if he knows what's good for him) he will find his way back to me---and not lose the best thing that's ever happened to him.

Feeling strong today, don't know why----but when it happens, I go with it.

Hang in there (((TOH))))!