I'm into the 7th month of a waw that filed and left. No note or warning. 30 yrs and 6 kids. Left 2 weeks after last kid went to college. We spent the first 3 months dating, and phone calls. More open commun than the previous 30 yrs and lots of info about en's I did not meet along with intimatcy issues and other issues.
At month 4 something changed for the worse and the open communication went away and was followed by a po. It's been 2 1/2 months since the po and D is still on although not doing much right now.
My wife tells the kids that the po was just done in anger and kinda stupid (I cannot talk to her). We had a wedding last week she did not attend because my son told her that since we both could not be there due to the po, she was not invited. We have a daughter getting married in june and she has mentioned she will do something with the po so we can work together on that wedding and both attend, but still makes comments about being so angry, even though she had said the first 3 months after she left i did everything right (although I probably was too needy, pleading, ect). When (I know each sitch is diff) will she begin to let go of some of the anger?
It seems to anger her that I have taken responsibility for not doing things as well as I should, and that I am committed to doing better. She admits to being terribly lonely and unhappy living alone with no one around, but it seems to be more about being the victim than admitting a mistake. Turns off anyone who suggests she may have some work to do herself on the R. Any ideas/suggestions? Thx!
