The only reply you need to make to your W's emails are "let's let the lawyers handle it" and "thanks for thinking of me." This way you stay out of the fray.
I wouldn't be too sure about having to move closer to your W's work. Let the process play out and see what happens. Given your W's instability, you could even end up with primary custody--don't feel guilty if you do. Can you afford to stay in the house w/o your W's income? The costs of divorce often make that impossible.
Hehe, I thought your W might end up owing you some spousal support. Just wait till she figures that one out. I've been where you are, and sometimes the only way to deal with the pain is to see the humor in the situation.
Lake Tahoe? I live in Sacramento and go to Tahoe a couple of times a year. It is beautiful. I hope you enjoy it.
