Thank you! From what you've written I've sort of had a light bulb moment. But I want to check what you think. I'm so 100% certain that pursuing my H caused him to run faster in the other direction.... I thought that I was doing the right thing (entire marriage) but actually I just made him feel trapped and I was less attractive because I came across as clingy. So when I read DB (and other books on similar themes) and realised where I had gone wrong, I was very motivated to never show pursuing behaviour again. I'm all about attracting him back to me.
BUT I guess what you guys are saying is that connecting with him in a friendship way is not pursuing. Hmmm I guess I have to think about this and define what is pursuing and what is just friendly and polite.
So my compromise was to send a short text message thanking him and I said that the work he did looked good.
My intuition is saying that 2 phone calls in 2 days - he will definitely pull away now, so I'm not expecting any response to my text.
