Hi RC, I would be suspicious of the friend. I don't think it is a good idea for your H to get involved in the middle of you and the friend. An EA could happen very easily. BTW, is she married? If not, I would really be concerned about them talking and your H befriending her. She may decide to take advantage....would not be the first time this has happened between friends. Besides, what does he care? Why is he pushing this on you? I would tell him that I don't want to do it anymore and that you are asking him out of respect for you not to talk with her anymore about you. (I would really want to say not to talk to her period, but then he would accuse you of being jealous and not trusting him....but we know how females can be, don't we?) Maybe it would just be better to tell him that your main arguments have been over her and that you don't want her and your past friendship being a problem between you and your H. Ask him in a nice way to let you take care of it the way you decide or want to.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
