25 years,yes me and W work outside the home,me full time W had two part time jobs,total of 45 hours a week.Long story short W lost one of the jobs,and they cut her hours at the other job.Because she tried to quit but had to crawl back,now she works between 16-24 hours a week.My s-20 was only diagnosed 1and a half months ago with bulged back discand spine degeneration.The docs told him he had spine of a seventy year old,we are currently waiting for second opinion,because the first said he might lose partial or all loose of one leg.W doesnt even talk to him,if she does you mention it a week later and she doesnt even remember it mostly.I have saved my house,it was going to forclosure 20 days after W left,I didnt even know we were that far behind,W did all the bills.Lights were going to be turned off % days after W left ,got that taken care of,almost all set,but it will be tough finishing it off.Been depressed for about two years,going to counseling now for a month ,toke me that long to get an appointment,meds are well,just jittery sometimes.But feeling much better!!!Only thing I know About OM is,she used to date him in high school,he is a biker.Other wise she doesnt say annything about him at all.But Om is on disability cause of a bike crash.Owns his own house.And has been divorced for about1-2 years not sure on that one.What I would do differenlywould be,make sure i am always willing to listen with no attitude to W.Be much more patient,which i am now,and make her feel more appreciated.Take care of myself,i didnt before,sure am now!!!I am trying to be the best person i can for my family,its tough but ikeep trying.Dont drink so much,hardly drink at all anymore since this happened,figure it would only make things worse.Thats all ican think of for now,thanks so much again,25


Me:42 W:41 Married 22 seperated12-31-07,served papers 2-29-08 S21-S20 partialy disabled S17
Divorce sighed 10-7-08 final 90 days after