It sounds like your W is spending an awful lot of time thinking about you, what you are doing or not doing, and whether or not you are thinking of/spying on her. She appears very concerned about what others are thinking of her - this is a good sign that she is slowly waking up. You being mysterious is working - she's definitely wondering what you're up to.
Did your H go through this also? I asked W if she would be my date for a friends son's upcoming wedding, she said she's spending the night at N's house I know N and her H, we're friends, but she would sit and dance with me. I told her that she asked me why I want to take her out to dinner a while back, I said to see you so you can see the changes I'm undergoing. I was making some good changed before surgery, but have been battling depression off and on since(even though I'm on some AD's) surgery. I went from being a normal healthy guy to basically an invalid, who had to have someone take care of him. My health is great now but still I feel it every once and a while.
She did ask why I don't bring the woman I'm dating, told her she is just a friend who is going through the same thing as Me, a D she doesn't want (I'm not seeing anyone). She said bring her she won't be jealous. Even if I was seeing someone a friends son's wedding would be the last place for that. That night is about the bride and groom, not our drama. But maybe my W needs to see me with another woman on my arm to bring out her feelings.
The friend I met for drinks has been calling me almost every day. She is going through M problems also. Her H left her, came back and wants to work on M, now she has left him (before we met up). LBS becomes the WAS. I told her about DB and she has asked me some questions about it. She only opened up about this yesterday.
She has made me feel attractive and wanted again, has lifted my spirits some. She lives 8 hours away in another state. I would like to convince her to read DB or DR and give her M a try. Although it would be interesting to see her although it would be a long distance R.
If you decide to date maybe we could "go out". we could go to different restaurants at the same time together, just on opposite side or the continent, LMAO. I might even order your favorite wine and set it on the other side of the table, ROFL!! I'm hoping the best for you and H, I think the two of you are close. When H moves back in, that's when the hard work will start. Trying to get closer to each other and leaving the bad feelings and memories behind, but you can do it.
Wish you the best,
Mike
M 51 W 49 S26 S25 D24 D19 Married 27 yrs T over 30 S 7/12 D-bomb 9/26
