Nik - The contact with OW may not be exactly what you think - often these idiots have a hard time cutting that cord even after they've "come home" - but I agree with OT that you have to set some clear boundaries on this now, it's been going on way too long. As soon as you get your financials in oder.
Nikki~
Not much time to post, but I agree with Ellie totally. I just set some boundaries regarding LW and what I expect as we rebuild our M w/H; if you have time, go check out my recent posts in piecing to see what I did.
Truly...these doofi think that because they didn't actually have an A, they did nothing wrong...and that there's no reason to continue the friendship even after they've recommitted to the M. That's my H's response..."It's not like I cheated..." Whatever.
Anyway, don't go overboard here. It's an old pic, and your H's behavior is better. I waited until I felt strong enough to say Enough and be able to deal with the consequences. I think you're smart to take your time and think things through so you act in the way you're prepared to accept the consequences from.
(((Nikki)))
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
