My H came by today while I was working to walk the dog again. He left a note that said, "Thanks for the check for the phone bill, and I borrowed a tom petty CD".
My MIL then called me this evening to check in again. She asked me if my H is still contacting me. I told her all the latest events that have happened and how I think our R pattern is changing since I have let go so much more now.
She was very kind, and she informed me that H actually came over to visit with his folks last week out of the blue. He is broke again, and asked them that if he needs to borrow money if it is o.k.-they said yes. He also asked them if he needed to move back in with them for a while if that would be o.k.-they said yes. He hasnt done either, but we all know that he is at a low point to be asking this of them.
MIL informed me that he wasnt lying about being back in the band he joined for a week in January, as one of his cousins saw him out playing at my H's favorite bar with the band. So he must have re-joined it.
I got the KLA cd's and have listened to #1 & #2. So far, I feel like it will not help me much with my MLC H. If i were in a rel. with someone that is not depressed/alcoholic and refuses to work on our M, then maybe it would be more helpful. I feel like when a S is in a MLC, there is no way to fix them or to change them, as their answers must come from within them. I already have done back flips trying to please him and nothing seems to wake him. I will keep listening as I know that it would be helpful for me with future R's that I have if this one with my H doesnt work out. TIPPER
