Hey there, I'm glad you changed your name. I hope he's happy w/what he's done to his family. I could shake the crap out of him right about now. Notice how he drops things on you around special events/holidays? Here he is hopping along and comes by with papers for selling the home. You did the right thing by telling him that if he wants to sell the place, then come over and take care of doing what is necessary to sell it. I wouldn't lift one finger to help him with this.
You know, I've said this before, do not answer the phone after a certain time at night. He's not a baby and whatever he wants to talk about can wait until a reasonable hour, after you are up in the morning. It's time now to turn the tables a bit and show him just what life will be like when he's actually free of you the children. Does he honestly think that you are going to be there for him every minute of every day once everything is split up? I seriously doubt that you will.
He's still on the merry-go-round reaching for that illusive brass ring called happiness. He's got to finish up destroying everything good in his life before he'll discover what's been in front of him the entire time--a wonderful wife, children and life. They really do cut their noses off to spite their faces.
It's now time to put all of your focus on you and the children. Time to really cut him short on things and show him what it will be like. I'm sorry about all of this. I could really throttle him right about now.
Try to enjoy the weekend. Plan something special and leave all thoughts of him at the front door.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
