Well 2 nights ago H also rang again. ..... I got to be a bit mysterious (I was getting my car serviced) - but I got to say that I was out and he was curious. I was happy, funny and we laughed lots.
Brilliant- that sounds like a great interaction, abd it's good that H called again. Presumably he didn't have to check if you'd got things ready for him did he? So I thin that's pretty positive!
Originally Posted By: Essie
.... and thats how he has always shown he cares for me. So straight away he rang the electrician and organised for him to come and check the smoke alarms, and told me what I should do to stop them immediately etc. etc.
I think this is FABULOUS! He sorted things out so quickly, and did things that he's always done to show he cares about you. Were you pleased? I think that's really exciting!!
Originally Posted By: Essie
He's so clever with practical things, but zero emotional intelligence!!! Ha Ha!
I'm not really good at this stuff but wanted to pull this out because I thought it was interesting. How would H demonstrate EI if he had it? I wasn't sure how EI would manifest itself (probably because I don't have too much myself!!)
Originally Posted By: Essie
So not sure if I should call him this morning and say that the works looks good, or if I just leave it at that?!? He will be coming around in a few weeks time to finish it off. I'm hesitant to call him too much, because he really could have used the work as an excuse to see me if he had wanted to (but obviously he didnt).
I would definitely call him and say you thought the work looked good. Does H normally appreciate those kinds of words of affirmation/you appreciating his hard work? I think it's really nice of him to make the time to come and do the work, so I think it'd be nice to show appreciation.....if his LL is acts of service, his definitely showing he loves you by doing stuff for you!
You've also mentioned that you're hesitant to call too much. Have you been calling him at all? I think I'm confused- I didn't think you'd been calling that much Essie (?). Sorry if I am . But if I'm not, would it hurt to call once? Put another way, what behaviour on H's part might encourage you to call him? Again, sorry if I've totally got the wrong end of the stick. I've read that reconnection begins with re-establishing friendship, and from that POV, if my H had come and done some stuff for me, I would definitely thank him because I'd definitely thank a friend who'd done the same....
Originally Posted By: Essie
Why do I write such long posts about nothing!?! I'm off for a new haircut and colour!
I don't think the interaction with H was nothing. It was a good baby step (and the post wasn't that long at all-look at the length of this one!). I vote for reciprocating and calling him. It could lead to a bit more contact, friendship and maybe more.....
How are you getting your hair done? What colour? So exciting- can't wait to hear how it looks!
