okay. I may be singled out here, but I think we are over-reacting.
First, has anyone been in H's position? Has anyone been the WAS?
I can tell you from a WAS point of view, that this picture may very well not mean much. IMHO, and obviously I could be wrong, but I believe that OW has sent this pic to possibly re-engage their R with each other, possibly reminding him of what fun they used to have (especially since it "sounds" like H has been trying to do the right thing by avoiding her on these ski trips). It is possible that your H has a phone that when he views a picture it saves to the phone, or maybe not. Even if he did save the picture, I don't think it has to mean he is still having an EA or whatever. Plus, if he saved the pic, I would think that he would also have texts as well, and if he deleted the texts, then Y would he leave the pic.
What I think you should do, is take OT's advice about talking to him, but my suggestion is definitely don't act like he's having an A. just let him know that you wanted to fix his phone and saw the pic. could he explain it for you? in a non-accusing voice.
You could tell him that you were under the assumption that you were both wanting/trying to make this M work, but if that is incorrect, then you need to know.
I had a pic of my OM in my photo albums and I only just tore it up after my H happened upon it. I don't know why I kept it, but the R was just a very intense one because of the struggles in my R with H and just being in an A is very intense. I don't know how to describe it. anyways, I would explain more but my s3 is crying now. my point is, even though I still had feelings for OM, I knew I didn't want to be with him and that I wanted my H. the OM/OW is a very hard thing to get past.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
