When you talk about listing baby steps, does this mean steps I can see my W. taking so far or does it mean steps I'm taking for me to GAL (or both?).
I think it'd be great to see two lists... One of baby steps your W has taken, and one of steps you've taken. Baby steps are for both WAS and LBS, as a wise DBer told me once (it was Jack). If I get time over the weekend, I'll try and read your thread and list the baby steps I can see, and we can compare! Having said that, I think there are quite a few, so I may be letting myself in for a big job there!
Originally Posted By: Purr
I wonder when people say they see hope if they mean for the possibility of reconciliation in this situation, or if they mean hope for me to be okay if it doesn't work out? Any thoughts on this? And then, yes, I will post! ; )
I can't speak for anyone else and what they meant by hope, but from my POV, your sitch has A LOT of hope in it for reconciliation. Your W is confused but still wants you in her life- she is not committed to ending the relationship in the way many other WAS are. Having said that, the point of DBing is to generate hope for both the LBS, and for the M/relationship. So there is hope that you will be OK whatever the outcome. More than hope- you WILL be OK whatever the outcome. I know it's hard to believe that sometimes (I wonder myself sometimes, and I am nearly 8 months S), but things do get better.
OK, I'm waiting to see that list.
L.
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart. And you'll never walk alone.
