Worried I found DB too late #2

[houndfan]

I'm calling BS here!!!! Unless your husband is of some super species of man (if he is I really want to pick his brain) he has the ability to seperate physical and emotional! That's why we are such pigs because intimacy is easy to ignore. So if the sex isn't happening because of that he is bluffing!

Soooo... me thinks that if you want to get it started, get it started! Make it happen. (I know "Hound that is easier said than done etc). I tell you what Cyndi, if my W wanted me to be intimate with her, not a chance I would EVER push her away. We were seperated and over Thanksgiving I was at the house. One thing led to another and we were having hot crazy sex. Not marriage sex mind you - but sex nonetheless. After it was all said and done (listen up lovemyguy) she got up from the bed, said to me that it was just sex and nothing else and that I still repulsed her.

To add insult to injury she told me how she was just horny and I was the next best thing to her toy. She got dressed and went back down stairs like nothing happened. Later in the evening she told me that I would never do that again etc.

But I digress, I am not sure how it fits in with DB'ing CW but I know that Michelle has some stuff on sex while seperated. I think that you should "look" into some moment with H, nothing forced or fake... What would he do if you took one of those hello goodbye kisses a little further up the road???

What was your old approach to the ramp up? (Don't answer just think about it). You have done so awesome in controlling the critical nature in you that has scared him, can you do a 180 here too that is legitimate and would surprise and entice????

Again in our sitch my W has really come around sexually since we have been back together and it is fun again. She is not critical, cynical, or demanding but we run the gamut from soft and passionate to crazy (hmmm maybe TMI).

Anyway - I am calling BS on this one.... go get 'em CW!!!! LOL