The entire meal is what I want. Don't get me wrong. I've made it clear to her that I want to work on our M but refuse to do it while W sees OM. Her response is that she doesn't know what she wants, she's been unhappy, she can't figure out why, and right now she needs time on her own to sort it all out.
What has worried me is that she will run off with OM while she is under the delusion that he makes her happy. I'm afraid if she does this she'll end up devastated about it further down the road. I don't want to see her do this to herself, but I'm also getting tired of waiting for her.
You're right that we don't have much holding us together at the moment (kids, etc.) and I'm not concerned about being able to find someone else. I've got a lot going for me. However, I also love my W more than anything and don't want to see her make this huge mistake. I feel like I'm walking a fine line of setting down boundaries in our R and keeping her interested in the possibility of reconciling at the same time.
This week I've spoke to her twice. Granted one of those times we went out to dinner, but I guess I want her to see what she'll be missing if we D. I've already told her I can't be 'just friends' with her, so if D goes through then there won't be anymore contact. She got a taste of that this week.
I am conflicted about what approach I should be using here, so I guess at the moment it's a combo of being friendly when I see her but setting boundaries in our R that I won't tolerate. I have no idea if this will do anything constructive for us so advice on how to continue would be very appreciated.
