Better late than never?

[MichelleLT]

I hope you have a great night. Keep up the positive mental energy, it will show! But remember, no expectations. You are on fragile ground, and she is in a fragile mental state. Try not to take anything negative personally.

You may find these insightful and helpful. I know you have found a lot of articles and things on here, but in case you haven't seen these:

This is the six stages of mid-life crisis (MLC): (there are a few people on here who think their SOs are in quarter life crisis and your W may be) http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=423996&site_id=1#import

And these are the 4 stages of DB:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1396819

In my case, I think of my H as having built up resentment and anger for a couple years before hitting his breaking point. And when they do, they go from overlooking their own needs to being completely selfish. They also go through a period of denial where they won't admit what they are doing, to themselves or to anyone else. It does pass eventually, if you ride it out. That's why the first step of DBing is to lessen negative emotions.