Prior to the beginning of this month, my H and I had been S'ed since summer 2005. Lots of waffling occurred - one month H would say that he wanted to work things out, then the next month, he didn't care anymore. It went on and on like this from the day the bomb dropped (Jan 05/EA) all the way until the very beginning of this month (Mar 08). I had more than enough of the neverending ambivalence, so I finally put my foot down and said if he didn't want a D, he would have to move back in immediately. No more his place, her place. There would only be OUR place, and we would have to deal with our M issues TOGETHER. No more running away from the faintest sign of trouble in the R.
Honestly, I thought the day would never come, but it did. My H returned for the first time in nearly 3 years on March 4, 2008. The day before my birthday.
These last few weeks have not been an easy cakewalk as this is a huge adjustment for us both. We have had some bad moments - never bad days as I don't believe in such things - and we have managed to get through them without any real damage remaining. There is no anger, resentment, or bitterness. Only hope remains for the future. OUR future together.
Never blame. Never assume. Never go to bed angry. Never give up.
Always be kind. Always be patient. Always love unconditionally. Always smile . Always hold on to hope for it is always there.
Last edited by GoingForward; 03/28/0806:50 PM.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
