Last night I put a load of laundry in when I got home from work. WW was at the salon. I was putting the load in the dryer when she got home and she started putting some of her clothes and the kids down the shoot. After I came upstairs she went down and threw a load in the washer.
The washer was done before the load I threw in was dry so when I went down to get those clothes I just threw the jeans in the dryer and a load of shirts in the washer. When I came upstairs WW was walking to the basement door and stopped when she heard the washer/dryer going. This PISSED her off. Not sure why me switching loads around while I was down there anyway would make her mad, but it did. She stomped over and grabbed her coat, threw her keys on the counter and slammed the garage door on the way out to smoke. I just kind of giggled. I'm guessing that me helping her or being considerate to her in any way makes her mad because she's made me into this monster so she can rationalize the affair in her mind. If not, then the whole affair, never loved you b.s. that comes out of her mouth would be a waste and a lie.
Anyway, a few minutes later she comes in and sits down to watch some t.v. with DS19 and me. She's there about a half hour and actually has a good time. She laughed and talked with us and I caught her a couple times looking at me and there was something in the look. You can just tell. And it was there. But then she suddenly got up and went upstairs to watch t.v. the rest of the night.
I'm thinking these are positive signs. She in total conflict with herself right now and it seems like the good times are starting to be more frequent than the bad times. The good times aren't great by any stretch of the imagination, but they're better than they have been in many months.
She sent me an email this morning and said she's setting up her paycheck to put some in our joint acct and the rest in "her" account. I think this will be good. I'm going to take the opportunity to see where we're going. I'm going to ask her if she's doing this because she see's us as roommates or if she's doing this so she has some control of her own money as part of a married couple? If she says as roommates then I am going to tell her she's going to have to contribute to groceries, pay for her own hair appts, her own gas , split the kids expenses, pay her Victoria's Secret bill, etc like a true roommate. Let her get a real taste of what it will be like if she doesn't commit to the marriage. If she says as part of a married couple then I will be more than happy to pay for all those things myself and just let her have her own money to do with as she pleases without having to ask me for it.
How's that sound?
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
