did anyone know that in new york you can't cite irreconcilable differences?? you only have 3 choices...cruel & inhuman treatment, adultery, or abandonment.
Yep, and my H is guilty of all three but we only counter claimed the first 2. He filed for divorce using constructive abandoment. Total BS and he knew it but he said he had to choose something and he thought that was the less of the 3 evils. Dork.
He wasn't expecting me to counter claim. He got furious when I did. He said "it's baseless, senseless and absolutely ridiculous." Dork again.
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i actually can't wait to get to the anger part. my therapist tried to take me there and i couldn't do it. i'm hoping that part of it will hurt a little less than what i'm going through right now.
I was like that in the beginning too. My T asked me how come I wasn't angry. She wanted me to get angry and eventually I did. You will find yourself there sooner or later and you will probably bouce around a lot too. One day you will be angry at yourself, another day you will be angry at him, another day you will have nothing but compassion for him, etc. At least that is how it worked in my case and a lot of other poster's I have seen.
And Cat is right, seeing a L does not make anything final. I was a nervous wreck when I went to see one, but I did feel better afterwards when I found out what my rights were.
I do hope you find comfort in visiting your family. I think that is the best thing for you right now. You are in my thoughts and prayers. (((((hugs)))))
