no expectations 6

[Nature Girl]

peace,

I think you are right, they really just do not know what they want. The thing is, I think there is a tiny part of them that knows they are acting crazy but they can't do anything about it. So they are really in turmoil (my H used that term to me) and their head is really not a very nice place to be in. They don't want to be in turmoil, but they can't get out of it.

When I think of it that way, I have compassion for my H, because I would really not want to be in that state of mind.

Good idea about waiting to do something out of the hosue with the kids. You don't want them (or your H) to think you are doing it to keep them away from him.