Sounds to me like you're handling things perfectly. I'd keep doing what you're doing. Isn't this all good DBing techniques anyway? You're positive, you're detached, you have your own life - let her spin.
I have to admit that I'm hoping to see my W crash and burn as well. But it's so hard, I mean whenever we get together we relate incredibly well with each other - why won't she see that? But she won't so why ask those questions?
