"The Waiting is the Hardest Part" Tom Petty

[Nature Girl]

sleeper, I think it is a fine line we walk and I'm not sure I'm on even on the line at all so you may not want to listen to me!

I think you should act like a friend and so help her, but don't overly help her. If you have "plans" (and make sure you have plans!) and can't take the kids when she is supposed to have them, then just let her know in the nicest way possible that you have plans... "sorry, unfortunatley I have plans tonight that I can't change, but I could take them tomorrow night if that helps you any"

It sounds like you are "doing" the right amount. I would say helping in terms of the kids can only be a good thing. I think the WAS is always looking for reasons that support their view that their M to you will just not work, so sometimes you are d**med if you do and d**med if you don't. Overall, taking the high road will be the best bet.