End of Piecing?

[SDFoundGirl]

I recommend reading Loving What Is by Byron Katie. She has an inquiry process to use to get at the core of why you feel how you feel about any particular issue. It's a simple process, but it's also really powerful. She also has a book that is specific to relationships...I think it's something like, "I need you; is that true?" It contains the same process.

In the end, it's our judgments about our thoughts about things that cause us pain. It's helping me start to get over my feelings about an inappropriate friendship my H had during our issues...and a woman with who he is still friendly.

BTW, I, too, feel a lack of connection with my H and it bothers me. A lot of it (I'm coming to realize) are the thoughts that run rampant in my head...especially around this woman. I hold myself apart out of fear and some anger. But that's my work...and my H being more open and not hiding things from me is his work.

But you know, all we can do is work on ourselves. Other people aren't even our business....

I do think there's hope for you guys, but ease off on the pressure on each other and yourselves. Work on yourselves.

Good luck!

SD