My story, please help

[saffie]

Gavin,

I stopped responding because I didn't know what else to say.

Sandi is right I feel in saying something is causing your W to self destruct. I know you disagree with me but my best guess is it's an OP. Maybe she's not involved with them yet or thay are M'd too but her lack of knowing what she is doing all the time makes me feel she is waiting on someone else. That's why she blows hot and cold - doesn't know if she can do sunday dinner as she may get a better offer yet - if the better offer can free up their day???

I am just guessing - but that's what it feels like to me.

Your W is in turmoil for SOME reason. No-one knows why; she will hit the bottom eventually and it will come out. I just hope my feelings about it are wrong. I have been reading along and when you posted about the 'sex' comment she threw out my tummy flipped. She is testing you.

I am sorry you are experiencing this pain - I know how much these things hurt.

I know we are not meant to snoop etc - but as someone whose H did have an A, I would be snooping in your position just to find out where I stood. My H told me about his A because I hadn't snooped - apparently he had been leaving me clues and I never picked up on them. He was trying to get me to see so that I would stop it all!!!! I was just a bit too trusting to realise. I know that is not the most common sitch tho' so factor in my experiences when reading my post.