I think maybe my W was serious when she talked about some of her demons the other night and a willingness to change. Last night when I got home from a meeting, she sat down and started dealing cards. It is the most initiative I have seen in a long time. Then when we went up to our separate rooms, I got a phone call from her. She invited me to come to her room and play (not cards).
It seemed real and different this time. She seemed to want to connect. It wasn't just sx, it seemed like real intimate touch, snuggle, the works. She seemed fully engaged in the process (even led a little). She said she finally understood that sx was suppose to be fun. She's been talking to her friends about it for awhile. She says she has noticed that most of them not only like it, but go out of their way to get it. She even said she had fun last night. There was some simple affection this morning too.
She said we need to work on our sx life and implied her willingness to start exploring what she likes and wants, and what she doesn't like.
Talk about 180s.
I will approach this cautiously because I have been deceived before, but I am not going to assume that I am being deceived now. She still wants separate rooms for now, but she doesn't equate that with no physical relationship, just a controlled one.
If this keeps moving, it will be a great example of two people working on their own personal issues as a means to resolve a R.
toubled husband
H - 47 W - 44 M - 18+ years Separated? - 4/07 S - 13 S - 15
