W called this AM. Needed help. She is "tired and stressed out." Was a little fussy because she asked me to take kids last night and I didn't (It's her week). Commented one time, "this is why we're getting a divorce" (because she feels she has carried the entire load). At the same time she commented it doesn't matter that I'm not helping her since we are getting a divorce.
MY CATCH 22:
Help her (protecting her from the consequences of separation/divorce) effectively enabling her.
Don't help her and therefore validate the reasons why she is divorcing me.
What did I do? I went to her place, got kids, listened to her vent. Agreed to do a couple of things for her today. I Said very little in response to her venting (validated).
Should I do more or do less? (This is a serious question I would like some help with)
Should I stay or should I go? If I go there will be trouble, If I stay it will be double. The Kinks?
Last edited by sleeper; 03/28/0801:55 PM.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.
