He called me !! He called me back I think as soon as he got my voicemail. And we talked!! For almost six minutes!!
HOOOOOOORRRRRRRRAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYY! T, I am SO HAPPY for you! I've been really looking forard to this day since we met, and I cannot teell you how over the moon I am that this happened!
Originally Posted By: transformer
I was very happy, positive, friendly, upbeat. He laughed a lot during the conversation. He told me he was so surprised to hear from me.
Perfect DBing- that is awesome! It's so great that he was laughing! I wouldn't be too worried about him being surprised to hear from you- he wasn't expecting it and he was pleased- a nice surprise!
Originally Posted By: transformer
(This made me a little nervous, because he didn't say her name, so I thought it might be a OW or something, but I kept my cool.)
Perfect DBing. No assumptions, remember! She could be anyone. And whoever she isn, she's not as super-amazing as you are!
Originally Posted By: transformer
B: yes! Let's talk again soon. I mean, you can call me, or I can call you...dkljsdkfjs
He also said that it was good to hear my voice, and at some other point in the conversation said he was glad to hear from me and glad to know that I was alive. I responded with similar sentiments.
Hurray- this is fantastic- so positive!! He was genuinely happy to hear from you and speak to you, and tell you some of what he's been doing. I think it's wonderful!
Originally Posted By: transformer
(I had no idea what to expect, but I think it went really well!
I agree! And I'm so glad you made that list of positives. I think it's amazing that B called you back so quickly after getting the VM. He obviously wasn't nervous about speaking to you and wanted to catch up. I think you were a DB queen in how you handled it, T!
Originally Posted By: transformer
It was really weird to connect to him on the "casual friends" level...... It was kind of disorienting, and almost made sad, like, who is this guy? Does this make any sense? Have any of you guys had this experience?
Every time I speak to my H, T.... I think it's the whole thing about 'the alien'. They are so like the people we know, but also slightly different. I also think the difference might be because you guys are now building a whole new T and B relationship, and some things are going to be different. But better different, if that makes sense (by which I don't mean that things were not good before. Just that you will both have grown, so you will have t learn to connect again...)
Originally Posted By: transformer
I feel kind of nervous... should I have tried to do this earlier?? Also, should I have asked more questions about what he was doing? I wanted to be friendly and interested but because it was the first conversation I *really* didn't want it to seem like I was prying. Do you think I was too distant?
Ummmm, no to all of those. I think you did brilliantly well.
Originally Posted By: transformer
What is my next move, and when?
When B said that he could call you, did you say anything to the effect of yes, I'd like that. Or that that would be great? He sounded genuinely pleased to hear from you, so hopefully he will call you.... How about giving it a week?
I would probably lean towards having another phone conversation where you discuss an event or something that's happening. Or suggest meeting to catch up sometime soon. The phone is great because you get immediate feedback and you get to demonstrate your changes and GAL stuff....and I wouldn't leave it too long to call- again it depends on what you think would be a good interval (I am no help. Sorry!)
(((((T)))))) I honestly cannot tell you how pleased I am that it went so well!
L.xx (And sorry for the super-long post!)
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart. And you'll never walk alone.
