To Peace!

[Jeanette1120]

{{{Allison}}}

So it's not just their spouses they are out to hurt it's sometimes their kids too.

I believe it hurts EVERYONE! LBS,children,our family, their family, and.....them.

How can you begin a new relationship, get engaged/married when you've not finished your prior one? It can't be a healthy way to start a new life? Can it??

How does the OW feel? Do they know they will always be a secret second? How far is their head up their (our ) assests that they cannot comprehend what they're getting into? If I were (them) I more than likely would be getting pissed about things. In my sitch...I would think Fabs would be getting a bit annoyed that Rich is dishin out approx 3700.00 each month to keep this house going. BUT WAIT!! The poor thing probably doesn't even know....if he lies to me and keeps secrets, odds are he is doing the same to her.

Even if it is truly none of our business of they engage/remarry why is it such a secret? Why do they feel the need to keep it so closely hidden? Whoops, I think I already asked that

Even if asked point blank Rich will neither admit nor deny. To me, that is more than something being my business or not, it now starts to lead towards he's doing something wrong, or he feels guilty, embarrased or doing something WRONG!

I suppose..... right now the only thing that is my business concerning Rich is; the bills he is responsible for get paid on time, the house does not get forclosed on, my car does not get repo'ed, he maintains the outside structure of the house.

Only now, in retrospect, can I hear the alarm whistles that should have blown out my eardrums when Rich and I first met.

I cannot even imagine what goes on in his mind. It is beyond my thought process. Way beyond. I don't want to delve that far into the mind of his madness anymore. It's like quicksand. It will suck you in.

Like you said ACJ.....it went over their heads, thankfully for them. Some things are best going over our heads!!