Sandi, I do understand where you are coming from. I totally think it is like a nervous breakdown but you cannot make someone else see that they have a problem and get help.
As far as remembering my vows...yeah I do. I did not have the EA, did not walk away from my wife and kids and I am on this site seeking help. I am the one raising two small kids alone with a full time job. I sure do remember my vows. But sometimes I think you folks expect people to lay down and just let the other spouse go "play" and do their thing and just sit and wait them out.
Am I in it for that kinda long haul.... I don't think so.
