Dr. Love, wanted to also mention I totally will change what I say to the girls. D6 always asks who will get her off the bus, and I used to say with confidence "Daddy will". Not anymore. She didn't ask today but I told her to come home (instead of walking to a neighbors) and she was fine with that. Thanks for your advice. Sorry about your 1st wife.
LWB,
No reason to be sorry about 1st W. If it was not for her I would never have met my D's.. BUT.... here is another story for ya.. This is where I have a problem when people say. "Loving someone is a choice".
My 1st W and I went out in high school. After Graduation I broke up with her. THEN one Friday night I get a phone call that she took a bunch of pills and was going to kill herself because of our "Break up". I rushed over to her house and brought some stuff that made her throw up. I sat with her all night. All the time thinking "She must really love me to kill herself over our Breakup, How can I leave someone like that. So I stayed and "Learned" to love her. I made a choice to stay in a relationship that I did not want. Of course after a while I did learn to love her but....Did I stay and give up opportunities for a happy life for the wrong reasons??? I will never know. What I do know is that if I had not stayed I would not have two beautiful D's now...
And another thing that I learned about after the D. I had custody of my babies…. W did take them for a little while and I was worried that they would grow up to think Daddy was the mean one because he made us behave and would spank us when we didn’t. BUT….. MOM was the one that took up places Never disciplined us. And bought us fun things not clothes….
I NEVER talked bad about my Ex to or around my D’s. I NEVER changed my phone # (I have had the same number for 30 years now so Ex W could NEVER say she did not know how to contact the girls….
I let the cards fall where the may and it has paid off. The girls have formed their own opinion about their “birth Mom”….
Take care LWB
I am thinking about ya
Dr LOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
