Im trying to remain detached he keeps trying to reel me back in. Probobly so he can go on as ha was without worrying about me leaving. It isn't happening this time. DIstance it is until he makes some decisions.
JAK
Jak,
I think this is where I am at. Welll W does not kiss my a$$ (wish she would kiss anything... something...)
but I too feel that now I need to Detach also a little more. It's kind a a shift in the balance of "power"..
Dr Love
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Yes H, it is, just have to slowly shift it so that he doesn't see it coming. When we started piecing I let go of the GAL activities somewhat as to spend more time together. I have started a second job which keeps me away more now I just have to be a little more distant I think so that he might start to work a little more on him. Change me and it will change him.
Mystery also helps in my sitch.
TAL,
Let me know when your H is out of town in May. Hopefully we can meet in the middle and it would also help add to the Mystery that Im trying to achieve. FUN AND MYSTERY!!!
JAK
Last edited by jak58; 03/28/0812:02 PM.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
jak - it is SO easy to do that when you start piecing, you lose the very things that helped you get to that point and focus on the M too much again.
Glad you're working on that fun and mystery!! It'll be good for both of you.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
H had to work this weekend. Prego D and I went shopping for baby things. I cleaned and Organizied my At home America stuff for the new year. I do parties and have one tonite. So I guess I have three jobs actually. Won't be home much this week before 10 at night as I have to work all jobs till Friday. That will be distance I guess.
Nik,
Yes you do loose site easily I think when you start piecing. Im trying to get back to the basics and focus more on me. Need to get the weight off too. it bothers me but I know im stress eating and have been to busy to go to the gym.I'll have to start getting up early once it gets light earlier and walk before work then again on lunch and try to fit exercise dvd in at night when I get home.
Right now im trying to keep the positive that he does love me even if the fool is waiting for some big epiphany. Im not ready to give up just yet but im getting tired. It's been about three years that iv'e been not having my needs met. Just can't live forever like this.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Right now im trying to keep the positive that he does love me even if the fool is waiting for some big epiphany. Im not ready to give up just yet but im getting tired. It's been about three years that iv'e been not having my needs met. Just can't live forever like this.
JAK
Yes Jak58 we are at the same place...
Dr LOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
You are a busy bee!!... When is your daughter due? What an exciting time for you..I love going shopping with my mom, as long is she isn't driving me nuts that day
Hope you are doing ok..
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Oldest D is due August 16th but was told since she is having twins that expect 1 month early so I say July.
Im doing ok trying to keep PMA up.
We have to make a plan to meet soon.You mentioned May maybe. I can come to Rochester and meet there some where off the thruway.
Actually I would love to hit the outlet malls! in waterloo. Never have been there and my OD keeps talking about them so I would like to go even just to window shop(not a huge shopper).
That would be a nice mothers day gift to myself.
Talk Later,
JAk
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
