NikB #25

[NikB]

Only a second to post... thanks for the support! I owe longer replies and more info soon. Probably in this forum for now. I really don't see how I can move to "Piecing" with OW in the R at all, even as a "friend." I know I need to start a new thread shortly as this one will lock.

OT - I know (about both the continuing and need to address it). Very well said, thank you. I found this out last Saturday. For good or bad... I haven't addressed it yet because H doesn't know that I have this info. I realize long term it may be harmful to an open/honest R ultimately, but given that is looking like a slim possibility at the moment, I am kind of in self-preservation mode and trying to use the knowledge/info to my advantage. (i.e. act "as if" all's well and make sure taxes, housepayment, bills are paid, I've got a plan, before I bring it up).

I honestly believe he would run (literally) if pushed right now. Emotionally I am scared and sad but MUCH more prepared for it than in the past. Although oddly, I feel weaker than I did last Oct. after bomb #whatever when I went on my road trip and actually looked at condos. But emotionally weaker doesn't quite explain it - I have a strong sense that I'll be scared but OK. Financially... we had a large tax bill unfortunately, and the mortgage coming up in a few days. I want it all paid before I make a move. It's not a LOT but it gives me a few weeks to a month of breathing room.