"We had what I thought was a good spring and summer, got back into a bit of a rut in late fall, and now we're almost back to where we were before."
Hmmm...
"Although, we are talking more and being more aware of what we've been doing to each other."
I just think.. Why is this not working for you?
"It's not sex that is the issue, it's true intimacy."
What is intimacy for you?
"extracurricular activities"
Interesting. I just got a new tool. (Pay no attention to this).
"I didn't realize just how much I was disconnected from myself until my husband and I started counseling. He would say things like "if you can't tell [that] to me, your husband, who are you going to tell?" and it wouldn't matter what we were talking about ... I just tend to keep things inside of me, I have always handled things on my own, and I have probably harbored a fear that if he really did know the REAL me, he would find he didn't like it all that much. And that's not fair to him, I totally realize that."
I really like this. Goosebumps.
"So where we are at now is that we are trying to determine our next steps. Neither of us are happy, but I give him credit for not running out on me. He says he wants us to hopefully find our way back to each other, but he honestly doesn't know if he has enough left. We are discussing separating, to see whether that gives us each some perspective and space. Our main concern is our daughter, who's 7."
Neither are happy. He wants to.. Wait for it.... "Fix" it. He has NFC how. He is asking for "space".
"I am still working with our counselor to get stronger at just SAYING WHAT IS ON MY MIND no matter how awkward it is or how scary it may be. And I am getting better, bit by bit. And I'm liking it, I really am. It's kind of liberating and not so tiring to always be analyzing what I SHOULD say or what I SHOULD do in a certain situation."
OMG.. she said it. And it felt "funny"
So what do you want to say?
Here, I will push a little...
What is your Love Language?
What is his Love Language?
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
