Originally Posted By: ann25
.... why couldn't i just understand.


ooooh boy.

that's a whole other problem.

it sounds like HE's the one who needs to be more understanding.

Ann, you cannot let that continue as-is. It sounds like he's doing that more and more. (ie: an every day thing, rather than a "just that day" thing)
That kind of thing will destroy your marriage. It will just get worse and worse, if you accept his behaviour without saying anything.

The tricky bit, is in how to help him understand, without making it a "battle of wills".
very tricky \:\(

Maybe you would need to get "back to basics", and discuss with him what he believes "being married" means, and what "married people should do together".
Once you have that down, then ask him if his behaviour, matches up with how he just described how he thinks marriage should be like, and whether it is supportive of "a good marriage".

My guess is that they wont match up.

If they DO match up... then you have bigger problems \:\(


Last edited by Dom R; 03/28/08 02:24 AM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle